thank you for sharing. you touch on an intimate subject without overstepping. that's hard. this is really well-written.
i've never thought about the etiquette of signaling 'you're in zone' and drowning thoughts in sighs. yet, i think sex requires thought. good sex is mostly mental. without the fantasies, the foreplay, the empathy required to feel your partner, it's just boring mechanics. all foreplay is intellectual. all fantasies are intellectual. all teasing is intellectual. these lay the foundation for sensuality, an emergent property of touch and thought. one thing is for sure, reasoning kills sex, but certain kinds of thoughts can help let go.
I like your perspective. I don’t agree with it 100%, because I think thoughtful thinking can complement the physical processes involved in sex and further augment the pleasure of the experience. But! 🙂 I absolutely agree with your point about us overthinking in general. As a individuals, that behavior is detrimental to us on so many levels, each of which significantly impacts the quality of the overall human experience.
I appreciated this :) And I think you'd enjoy Esther Perel's work if you're not already familiar with it. Sex is this odd thing that reaches all the way from reptile brain and the deepest recesses of your subconscious all the way up to abstract cultural constructs around self-transcendence etc. As with anything that the conscious mind doesn't do a great job intellectualizing around, it's more art than science :)
thank you for sharing. you touch on an intimate subject without overstepping. that's hard. this is really well-written.
i've never thought about the etiquette of signaling 'you're in zone' and drowning thoughts in sighs. yet, i think sex requires thought. good sex is mostly mental. without the fantasies, the foreplay, the empathy required to feel your partner, it's just boring mechanics. all foreplay is intellectual. all fantasies are intellectual. all teasing is intellectual. these lay the foundation for sensuality, an emergent property of touch and thought. one thing is for sure, reasoning kills sex, but certain kinds of thoughts can help let go.
I like your perspective. I don’t agree with it 100%, because I think thoughtful thinking can complement the physical processes involved in sex and further augment the pleasure of the experience. But! 🙂 I absolutely agree with your point about us overthinking in general. As a individuals, that behavior is detrimental to us on so many levels, each of which significantly impacts the quality of the overall human experience.
I appreciated this :) And I think you'd enjoy Esther Perel's work if you're not already familiar with it. Sex is this odd thing that reaches all the way from reptile brain and the deepest recesses of your subconscious all the way up to abstract cultural constructs around self-transcendence etc. As with anything that the conscious mind doesn't do a great job intellectualizing around, it's more art than science :)