I promise, it will last forever

you'll have a better time if you try enjoying it

Everything ends but pretend like it won't. How does your perspective shift if you knew the thing would last forever? 

It would be painful hating that thing if it lasted forever. So I would love, nourish, cultivate, and improve it. I'm a temporary person but I pretend everything around me will last forever, not because of fear but because I want to have a good time. Everything becomes better if we engage with our experiences.

We're obsessed with forever because we can't seem to accept that something can be valuable even if it disappears.

You go to Rome for a weekend. 3 nights. Do you unpack the bag? Probably not. But doesn't it feel good when everything is in order, and you're settled for a year instead? Rome is your home now, and this is it. 

I'm pushing projects forward with conviction and integrity, thinking long-term, where do I want us to be in 10 months? Everyone keeps telling me we may not be here in 7 weeks, people are being let go everywhere around us, perhaps we should hold off and wait. Do you keep pushing? Do you put everything on hold? Can a thing be valuable even if it ends?

I've lived in London for four years. While I've spent 30% of this time traveling and living in other places, it's been my home. I thought I would hate London. In December 2018 I grabbed a taxi from the airport to my new house and I told myself I will try to love it. I will try my best to love it. Loving it is more rewarding than hating it. You can change your mind about most things if you want to.

Often, people don’t want to change their minds.

I have loved living in London. But now that I know I might not be here forever, I hold back. My desire to engage with the city, meet new people, and commit to things that make me happy has disappeared. And that's not because anything has actually changed. It's simply because I'm letting go of the idea that this is my home now and starting to welcome the fact that I might move somewhere else in just a few months. 

Doubting a strong relationship is the silent killer of it. You will end it with your thoughts and by thinking of its ending. You can't go back now. We have to assume it will last forever because a relationship can never reach its full potential if you don't trust it. Trust yourself; you'll know when it should end and go all in until it does.